Invalidating a person
Every decision, every behavior and every motivation we experience is driven by our emotions.
For yourself, being mindful of your own emotion is the first step to accepting your emotion.
When people say that relationships take work, they mean maintaining that constant balance of each other's emotions.
Your partner avoiding the "work" in the relationship is like wanting to have his cake and eat it, too.
One of the four options we have in any problem situation is acceptance.
Validation is one way that we communicate acceptance of ourselves and others. When your best friend or a family member makes a decision that you really don't think is wise, validation is a way of supporting them and strengthening the relationship while maintaining a different opinion.
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: Learn to recognize emotional invalidation in all of its insidious forms.