Dating a man who is newly divorced
“And I found myself dating again,” said Fisher, author of the new book, Dating for Dads: The Single Father’s Guide to Dating Well Without Parenting Poorly. “But this time I was a widowed and divorced woman,” Fisher said.
“And getting out there, well, it’s not easy.” But singles and divorce experts alike agree that Fisher is not alone.
Now, before we all get our panties in a bunch, before I get labeled the heinous man-stealer, let me toss out a few more details: James’ wife was on the cusp of no longer being his wife. But to quote Olivia Newton John in her star turn in “Grease,” What I mean to say is that over the course of those 10 hours I couldn’t knock the feeling – despite all those red flags – that James and I might still be a good match. Which brings me to now, two years into our relationship. In this day and age, the briefest jaunt through Facebook reveals significant portions of who this woman is: What she looks like, what parts of herself she likes to advertise.
They’d been together for 10 years, married for two. James and I have our ups and our downs in what could be called “still the honeymoon phase.” And many of them, frankly, have to do with how he used to be married to someone else. There’s some immediate satisfaction of knowing, of course. I’m sorry to say it, but this one’s a real lose/lose. The recently divorced man is, with little exception, the recently traumatized man.
These similarities make me think it is wise for women to ask four questions before dating a divorced man.
Every year my church hosted a singles retreat in Destin, Florida on Labor Day weekend.
It was the first year I went, and even though it was for singles, I was dating someone at the time, a man previously married. My boyfriend and I spent time together, but we weren’t inseparable like you might think.
Like anyone who is suddenly confronted with death, Ellie Slott Fisher was blindsided when her husband of fifteen years suddenly died.
But a second surprise came when Fisher began to once again hit the dating scene and was swept off her feet by a man who, after a two-and-a-half year marriage, became her ex-husband.